January 2016: Decisiveness


January 29, 2016: February

I’m really excited for what’s coming up over the next couple of months. There is so much that I want to share RIGHT NOW; every one of these things are what I want to publish this week. But, to create flow and continuity, I’m working hard to structure upcoming releases in a sensible order.

In February, we will spend a little more time going back to the start and introducing this whole Work-Life Chemistry concept and its main tenets.

The month will be audio heavy (as I ultimately hope everything to be in the long-run), and a little more conceptual. And while many people will come in mid-stream in the years to come, I think it’s important to start from the beginning with you all, these special people who are giving me this opportunity, to understand exactly what it is we are doing here. To make sense of the mission.

And stick around! Because at the end of the February I will make a special little announcement (little for you, big for me J) about a venture that I hope benefits everyone.

This is so much fun. Thank you all so much!


Your Friend,



January 27, 2016: What to do when you Splat

If it isn’t clear, overloading is inevitable for most high performers and motivated achievers. Even subtle achievers.

My good friend Karl (hopefully you’ll get to meet him soon) challenged me some time ago on the concept of avoiding crashes altogether, testing the theory that it is inherent to the character of achievement to overload. And, more importantly, the only way you can actually learn to master fluidity.

My own long-time learning analogy yields me to Karl’s point: The best way to learn your way around town is by getting lost. And so it is with much of Life’s lessons. (Despite what our elder’s cautioned us!) Experience!

One goal of Work-Life Chemistry is to arm performers and achievers to find their way out of that maze—identifying the signs early, or even after they crash and burn, and have the tools to navigate home (more to come on Home!). And, maybe, for early adopters, artfully arm young adults before they weave into much of that mess.

What defines that overload or over-commitment is a topic I can’t wait to get to. But, for a resource ahead of time, what do you do when you find yourself sprawled out on the floor after a serious drop of the shoe from over-commitment?

  1. Get off your butt.
  2. Recover: Embrace the embarrassment. It’s the quickest way to get the band-aid over with.
  3. Be in control of momentum.

That last point is key. If you learn from that fall, it was an amazing privilege to err. If, however, we don’t adapt to steering that machine, it was for naught and the driver is but a haphazard thrill-seeker with no intention of the outcome.

Having clear and specific tools going in to Commit helps to keep yourself in check and provide you with the resources to exit. And come out on top.

Do you have an example of how 1-2-3 brought you to a new level? I’d love to hear it. Look forward to hearing from you!


Your Friend,




January 20, 2016: Leading with Decisiveness

Playing off of last week’s exercise theme…

There are 50 ways to achieve the same fitness goals, and even sports performance goals. A coach clearly can’t get an athlete someplace if the client doesn’t have a goal. When the client does have a goal, the coach who has no specific methodology will not succeed and will always struggle.

Coaches and trainers (business leaders) who have a specific formula that they stick to for every client will undoubtedly have successes. They understand there are 50 ways that cannot all be used at once. So they use one that works for them. But they will let many down who don’t fit that mold (thus why there are countless employer options), and eventually they will fade. On the other hand, there are coaches who fluidly know and understand every single trick in the book, every method and style and approach—and they try to apply them with constant over-customization. These people will never get flying. They’ll get off the ground here and there, but if they keep their sporadics with no specific formula, they’ll never soar.


It is the coach with but a decent textual knowledge base who has a formula based on experience who will strive. If you are pilot of people, a developer of people—personnel or clients—here is my super simple piloting plan for you.

The decisive leader will:

  • be operationally specific, but learns to flex;
  • understand the difference between adapting to and starting over with each individual.

These behaviors create a firm leader who can shift as needed, for the client or the team, for the market or the business. (Remember the definition of “market!”)

You may be an informal leader or a ranking one; in a business or a civic role; a coach, teacher, parent, spouse…. It can be part of a team or a network, a project spot or a permanent one. Regardless, your role is growing and evolving with the interactions running in your life. Having an approach to balance the way you guide those around you is key to the successful satisfaction you hope for.

Your Friend,



If you are a participant, a setter of goals—take a look at last week’s preview. Leaders, share them with your clients. When you have a follower and a leader who both are specific and clear, you have an awesome formula for achievement. For both sides!


January 13, 2016: Decided & Finicky: The brothers dividing commitment


As much as we hate some of the so-called celebrities out there, there is one thing that many of them have done that we can learn from. Even those that we don’t care for at all.

They have been very decisive in what it is they want to do. How do you become decisive?

This week’s audio-cast (here) is actually part of a later concept, and we’ll revamp it again then. But I figure let’s just take a rough draft stab at it (I feel safe with you all throwing something a little rough around the edges out there), because I think it follows last week’s “’O’ Word” quite well.