March 2016: Getting a Handle on Over Achievement


March 30, 2016: Random Snippets Day

Relax your brain a little today—no deep details this week, just a few short, simple snippets. These are select points from some of the writing I’m putting together and some of the points that I hope you picked up on over the last several months.

  • Burn out is a very real risk. But it’s not just the job alone that does it. It’s how it all goes together in work and life. That’s why you must have chemistry between the two. One must compliment the other, but one comes first for them both to be fruitful.
  • Over-Achievers: Embrace it. You have a gift. But the goal is not to allow it to become over-commitment.
  • The more you have going on, the slower things progress (or the slower things move). But that is not to be confused with the slower time moves.
  • How to Identify an Over-Committer:
    • Likes to be busy
    • Ongoing running list of things or ideas to tackle
    • Excitable
    • Focuses on tasks and not meditation
  • Stacking Blocks Theory: The more items we take on, the taller our stack of commitment blocks grows. Even if they are very minor items. And, just like alphabet building blocks, the taller we go, the more instability there is—the easier that tower curves, wobbles, twists, and ultimately tumbles. Especially when you try to expand something. When you start with a single item and build a broad full foundation in it, going up may seem to take forever, but is more productive than it seems, will last much longer, and give you so many more opportunities in how to grow.

Hope you enjoyed the brain break and feel refreshed!


Your Friend,




March 23, 2016: Hemingway Lifestyle

Live, then Work, and you will Achieve.

Last week we discussed developing a Standby Lifestyle that gives you both the mind-freedom and time-freedom to explore, blast forward, and safeguard you during the unexpected.

A result of mastering that step and coming closer to a true Work-Life Chemistry is the Hemingway lifestyle.

What does that mean? Not living the life of Ernest Hemingway, but understanding the principles and interactions that make such a lifestyle not only desirable, but effective, productive, and achievable.

Take a listen to this week’s raw-style cast. I hope it helps give you a picture to clarify where you want your life to be.



March 16, 2016: Stand-by Lifestyle

So how did your last week go? Did you get to sample at least one of the Life First tools for the week? After March, we’ll specifically tackle over-commitment and get more specific into focus, specialization, and developing expertise—all of which can be scary to cross. But for now let’s continue to focus on the chemistry component.

In the solutions of Over-Commitment Disorder, we talk about De-Commit and Under-Commit. When you get to that second stage, you put yourself into a Standby Lifestyle that gives you the power to achieve the things you really want.

In the fire service, days can be quite busy…even when there are few alarms! We spend a good chunk of our time practicing our trade, maintaining our equipment, and keeping up on organizational needs. All of these, though, drop in an instant when the tones go off.

In life, we have the same priority. However, when we have too many background works to juggle, dropping them at a second’s notice is not as easy and often disastrous. This is why developing a Standby Lifestyle—work environment and other areas included—is paramount.

Now I don’t mean you should sit in your office chair staring blankly at your screen doing nothing. Nor should you be surfing the internet all day. (I know who you are!)

Working until the last second on everything because you have just a few more minutes to squeeze in; getting your kids ready for baseball practice up until the last minute you have available; pushing the next stopping point in the project because you can still get to the next thing right on time. Every single limit pulls from the real energy you have and from the depth you have to function in the next task.

And if Einstein were sitting by you he’d tell you that squeeze on your time is very real and physical, and impacts your very being.

By building in buffers of Nothing Time—not time to pause one thing and do another, but genuine time of mental recess—you master efficiency and create a purer sense of priority. This gives impactful power to your focus and ability to contribute and achieve.

Nothing Time is a critical component of a Standby Lifestyle that not only creates a buffer to manage curve balls, but more vitally provides your brain with room to breathe. It allows you to naturally flow into where you belong. And your work and life will reflect it.

Chat with you next week!


Your Friend,




March 9, 2016: By Focusing on One, We Achieve the Other

Okay, so after last week you’ve finally admitted you’re an over-achiever, an over-committer, or just flat out frazzled crazy. You’re a self-confessed self-challenge inventor. But are you up for a new challenge? I want you to scare yourself. Bet that’s something you haven’t tried.

Last month we explained why “Live” comes before “Achieve,” and in doing so alluded to the central tenet that says, “By focusing on one, we achieve the other.”

Today’s audiocast explains just what we mean by that, and how it will accelerate your mastery while freeing your mind and eliminating the crazy.




March 2, 2016: The Over-Achiever and Why It Even Matters

Let’s start right out the gate—Why is this even a big deal? Because the more things you have going on (anywhere), the slower things progress and the slower things move (not to be confused w the slower time moves).

So just what identifies an over-achiever or over-committer? Simply put, it’s someone who likes to be busy. Who keeps more to tasks and less to meditation (Ew! Fluffy word!!) time—Projects, house work, bills, fitness, hobby, kids’ events, volunteering, rearranging, new ideas, et cetera and et cetera. You might think, “But these are things that must be done.” With an over-achiever, it’s a dysmorphic sense of what must and what should be done, and just how they are addressed. For an over-achiever, it is not always that they want to do these things, but the constant underlying sense of a need to just be doing.

One of the things about high achievers is that ideas come so fast and furious—formulas, brainstorms, programs—that you actually FORGET more ideas than you remember. And some very valuable ones are lost. A true and mature achiever, a Genuine Achiever, on the other hand, learns to hold on to a single idea, template, or phrase and focuses performance on it, masters it, and uses all the others for forward evolution.

You are so excited to implement all of these ambitions. But just hang on.  You’ll be surprised how many you will be glad you never did jump on, waited, and how just the perfect timing made everything even better.


Your Friend,