Nov-Dec 2015: Work-Life Chemistry
January 6, 2016: The “O” word
For a recovering addicted achiever, Opportunity can be a cuss word. A trigger word. A relapse word.
Opportunity can be subtle, masked. You approach it with positivity, a mission to make things better, to develop something for others—your co-workers, your families, your communities. Somewhat like an iceberg glistening above the surface, what you really choose to take on has a bit more to it than hoped. Not just time, but the space in your mind.
For any one thing alone it may be over-stated. But for striving individuals, you will find you incrementally adjust over time to each little thing you have taken on; and once sensitized, add another. The space that it occupies in your mind is the greatest hurdle to being what and who you really want to be in any given area.
How do you check yourself with Opportunity?
By having a set of rules up front you walk into an opportunity armed to defend you from yourself. Like a successful stock trader, rules are determined ahead of time. Not that there isn’t benefit in Opportunity. But the greater benefit is the long-haul. Practiced regularly, they become an internal weathervane, enhancing that much desired internal satisfaction you thought you were going to lose.
Even if you don’t think you need a change to your pace, this approach will only magnify your performance quality and your quality of life.
The WLC strategies teach how to develop rules of engagement to master your performance. It can be a very difficult process. After all, you have become accustomed to it; it is part of you. But once you have torn yourself from that habit, opportunities don’t seem so golden, essential, or influential on your performance any longer. Only you do.
December 9, 2015: Over-Commitment Disorder
There is no shortage of reasons why we extend ourselves broadly, but most of it boils down to one of three reasons: Timing, Fear (or Guilt), and Pride (the positive kind).
Timing. With timing, sometimes things just overlap. There is not much we can do about how unplanned things unfold around us where we really do not have control. But having the tools to be alert to your own boundaries, to respond to the shifts, and have other triggers well in control has a significant influence on how you manage unexpected change.
Fear/Guilt. Combinations of fear and guilt do hold people back, but can also unknowingly push us forward. You might take advantage of opportunities strictly because you don’t want to miss out—that chance may not be there 8 months from now, or you want to get in on the bottom floor, or not get behind the rest. You have probably also been in the shoes of willing contribution, not because you stepped forward, but because everybody else stepped back.
Pride. Positive pride can be a driving factor—pride in your work, your organization, and the “clients” of your time. Opposite from fear, we commit because we are passionate about the best outcome. What drives that contribution is feeling you have something to offer an opportunity, a project, or a group. Even if it isn’t the lead role, there is something in your experience that allows you to execute the task with a unique awareness for a positive outcome.
When you are an intrinsically motivated person, someone who is passionate, energetic, or loves to solve problems, these can add up silently. Until it is way too late and something falls.
In my Work-Life Chemistry formula, there are 3 key ways to eliminate controllable over-commitment before it happens and keep sanity and high performance in all areas at the forefront.
- Close-ended commitments
- Create divisions of involvement
- De-commit. Under-commit.
Completely counter-intuitive? You might be surprised what lies under the surface of these ideas. I am really excited to share these and other tools in detail with you in my forthcoming e-book. Until then, think about what got you into an over-stretched circumstance, and what did it cost? Is it worth a tool to combat it? I hope so.
Dec 2, 2015: Audio Clip Outline: The Value of YOUR Time
Bonus, Simplicity, Time, Chemistry, Performance, Value
We serve many “markets” in our professional and personal lives without even knowing it. To add to the load we unknowingly carry, we do a little “extra” in any one area or by adding additional markets to do good in.
This compromises your time, value, and—even though you don’t want to hear it—your performance ability. In all areas of life.
This week’s podcast is a glimpse into just that.
Time Bonuses: Value, Simplicity, and Performance
I’m glad to be back with you this week, but hope you enjoyed your holiday break. You deserved it.
11.12.2015: Nobody Likes Chemistry
Work-Life Chemistry: Live. Blend. Achieve.
Nobody likes chemistry.
But everyone likes what it gives us—Fast cars, amazing beer, and used right, a tremendous lifestyle!
With the mantra “Live. Blend. Achieve.” you put the priority in the right place. Initially this concept was coined “Achieve. Live. Blend.” for a more attractive corporate lead-in. Yet, how often in life does anyone actually reach a fulfilled satisfaction of Achievement first? Putting work first can be like a box of donuts—just a little more and we’ll be good. Until we aren’t. Stuffed. Sick. Burnt out. Or worse, something in life crashes.
Your definition of performance and achievement are the least of the concern. But what is for sure is that you have no ambition to reach the top with no breath to frolic. (You like that word, eh?!) The point is not to see how much you can get done, but how much you can enjoy and share where you walk.
The right chemistry is a tough balance. But next time you think there just isn’t enough time, that “this” is just more important than that smile from the people who really count—take a break. Give a hug. Throw a ball. Cook together. Do something that counts first.
You’ll be amazed how enough time suddenly happens.
11.10.2015: The Message and the Thread
I have a message to share. I think that’s obvious. Just what is it all about? This common thread I mentioned? In a nutshell: Chemistry. The chemistry to perform at a higher level without sacrificing yourself. The chemistry to find the tone of professionalism that suits you. The chemistry to clearly see what fits in life and what doesn’t.
The nutshell doesn’t do justice to the inclusiveness, and hopefully any adverse bias you have towards any of those terms can be forgotten for just a while. The whole point is to improve lives, on a microscopic or meteoric scale, in a fashion that meets people where they are and takes them where they want to go.
Over the next year, you’ll see teachings on both themes and sporadics interchangeably. Things like:
- The Balanced Achiever
- Over-Commitment Disorder: Addiction. Busy. Chaos.
- 3D Performance
These are a sneak peek of just a few overarching notions—and some of the tools in them are way cool! Like Work-Loss Tolerance; The Crystal Diagram; and The Strategic Thinker. If those perk even the slightest curiosity, you’re going to LOVE the first little e-book I get out.
And if they don’t mean much, hang in there… there’s more to this nut(shell) J than it seems, and I think a little something for everyone.
Okay, so enough with the overviews already! How about some content?! Yeah! Let’s get rolling!
See you shortly.